May 8, 2012 / Chosen family, Communication, Fidelity, Intimacy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics, non-monogamy
The other evening Lucar and I were talking.
It made me thoughtful. Thoughtful about words like promise, vows, forever. I dislike these words. …
May 3, 2012 / Relationship dynamics, physical intimacy
Sex is not such a big deal.
I have been told since my hippie days that sex is nothing but a simple physical act, and for much of my life, I believed it. It went like this: You insert Tab A in Slot B. Nothing complicated or difficult about that. Even if you expand your repertoire to Tabs A through D and slots A through E, or however inventive you may get, it is still not rocket science to figure out any of the variations. Touch me here… it feels good! …
May 1, 2012 / Polyamory, Uncategorized, non-monogamy
I follow Modern Poly on Twitter. They routinely provide the poly community with some very solid information. The other day on their feed I noticed a link to their Tumblr blog and I have posted an excerpt of their post below: …
April 26, 2012 / Communication, Relationship dynamics, emotional intimacy
People can voluntarily control their emotions.
I have heard this stated different ways:
“We’ve agreed that sex is just sex, and that is fine. So as long as we decide not to get involved emotionally, we won’t.”
“Sex is just a physical activity. We can still be just friends and have sex. It won’t change our relationship.” …
April 24, 2012 / Communication, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics, non-monogamy
Recently at our local poly group meeting, I reviewed the rules. We don’t have many, just four basic rules. No cross talking, no offering advice unless it is specifically requested, respect everyone’s right to confidentiality, and group is a support group/network and not a dating service. …
April 21, 2012 / admin
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April 18, 2012 / Chosen family, Communication, Intimacy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics, emotional intimacy, non-monogamy, physical intimacy, relationship structures
Question: I’m female, and my girlfriend is pregnant; I want to be involved in the process somehow, but I am not biologically a part of the pregnancy (although I helped my girlfriend perform fertility rituals before she and her boyfriend conceived). Any advice? …
March 29, 2012 / Communication, non-monogamy
Too often I read comments on blogs disrespecting mothers and motherhood and mothers who choose or have to work. When one is a working mother, well lots of people have opinions about a woman’s worth, level of contribution and sense of loyalty, too. Never mind a mother, working or otherwise who is sex positive.
When one is a woman who writes about sex, well the gloves really come off. …
March 23, 2012 / admin
Website Review: At Longings End
At Longings End – http://longingsend.wordpress.com/
Summary – At Longing’s End chronicles the lives and times of a real life couple in an open relationship. …
March 20, 2012 / Communication, Intimacy, Polyamory, emotional intimacy, physical intimacy
Mina from At Longings End tweeted the other day about attraction, specifically physical attraction.
This is something Lucar and I discuss fairly frequently. This is also a topic that episodically occupies a great deal of my husband’s and I’s conversational time. …