April 23, 2014 / Communication, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

Long Distance Relationships – LDRs.

They can be challenging, yes, but they can be rewarding as well. They can be really good. A few years ago, I had come to a point in my life where I had decided that a LDR was just not going to be an option. I set a limit of one hour travel time in my mind as my maximum distance. Of course, a few months later I met, and fell in love with, a person who lived over two hours away.

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April 11, 2014 / Communication, Fidelity, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics


Breakups suck. They really do. Sometimes phenomenal, long term, stable relationships find themselves at a sudden ending.

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February 19, 2014 / non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

Lucar’s thoughts – Chicken or egg?

This post is meant to add my thoughts to what PolyAnna has already written here. Her basic question could be stated as, “Is poly a deliberate choice, or a natural orientation?”

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February 17, 2014 / emotional intimacy, Intimacy, non-monogamy, physical intimacy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics, relationship structures

PolyAnna’s Musings: Chicken or Egg– Orientation or Choice

Orientation or Choice? Choice or Orientation? Both? Neither?

It is well and duly established that I do not like labels. There, I said it again.

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January 6, 2014 / Communication, emotional intimacy, Intimacy, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

An external question

I recently ran across this question on a discussion thread on one of the social websites. Since I am not a member of that particular group, I was unable to respond in that context. I thought that it was a relevant question, so I decided that I would respond here, instead.

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November 28, 2013 / admin, Chosen family, Communication, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics, relationship structures

Two “unrelated” events

Recently, two seemingly unrelated events that happened a couple of weeks apart connected in my mind in one of those moments of insight that occasionally come to me unexpectedly.

The first was the presentation that a group of poly friends, PolyAnna, and I gave recently at a local university.

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November 28, 2013 / admin, Communication, non-monogamy, Polyamory, relationship structures

A note from Lucar

As I look back through this website, I am proud of the content that we have created. It is good and relevant and well thought out… but I am also shocked to see that it has been six months since I have posted anything at all. That does not mean that this website means any less to me, or that polyamory is taking a back seat to other things in my life –

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October 7, 2013 / Communication, Intimacy, non-monogamy, physical intimacy, Polyamory

Polyanna talks about Safer Sex

So I tweeted last week about article from Marie Claire. Today I will refer you to a long blogpost by Lee Harrington about Safer Sex and particularly “bare-backing” among strangers.

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September 22, 2013 / admin, Chosen family

BEYOND THE LOVE PSA (early bird pricing ending)

For all of you on the fence Beyond the Love sent me this today… Early Pricing is Ending very soon. Seriously, this is going to be a fantastic weekend. I cannot promise you great weather… I just can’t.

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September 13, 2013 / Chosen family, emotional intimacy, Fidelity, Intimacy, non-monogamy, physical intimacy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics, relationship structures

Ask Polyana: Do Swingers move to Poly or do Polys more often move to Swinging?

Question: Do Swingers more often move on to Poly or do Poly people more often become Swingers?

Answer: I have no idea… Really I don’t.

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