August 13, 2016 / non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

A millennial view of poly

An interesting view of polyamory by a millennial from the UK NewStatesman. Give it a look!!

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August 11, 2016 / Communication, non-monogamy, Polyamory

Dating is risky business!!

How do I meet poly people??

Where do you meet your partners?

How do I get started?

I’ve been seeing variations on these questions recently all over social media.

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August 4, 2016 / bisexuality, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

Adding a third

I’m going to take a look at another all too frequent scenario. You will probably notice that I am intentionally avoiding buzzwords that can be laden with emotional value that could misdirect the reader:

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July 27, 2016 / Intimacy, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

The Relationship Escalator

I honestly thought that I wrote a basic post on this topic years ago, but a diligent search of LT.us has proven that if I ever I wrote it, it wasn’t posted here! Whether you watch movies from Hollywood,

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July 19, 2016 / Communication, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

I’m Jealous

Here’s another scenario I’ve run across repeatedly over the years, either as a question in a symposium or in a counseling session. The specifics vary from case to case, but the question is pretty much the same.

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July 12, 2016 / Communication, Fidelity, Lisa, physical intimacy

I Didn’t See It. Consent Violations for the Knowledgeable.

In my circle of friends, the issue of consent is discussed a lot. It is hashed and rehashed until we think we have it all down and we know what a consent violation looks like and what our responses will be in any given such situation.

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July 12, 2016 / Chosen family, Communication, non-monogamy, Polyamory

Random thoughts

I allowed my mind to wander this morning [dangerous, I know!!] and this is what came out!!

I’m not poly because I have a high libido. I do have a very high sex drive, but there are many ways to satisfy that urge other than a poly relationship.

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July 4, 2016 / Fidelity, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

Conditional Consent – aka “the Veto”

Over the years I have helped one friend after another deal with the aftermath of being devastated by the concept of consent, with a series of conditions, that some call “the Veto.”

Partner ‘A’ and partner ‘B’ decide to open up their relationship, and agree to the provision that either one can veto a potential third person.

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June 21, 2016 / Fidelity, Relationship dynamics

Risk

There is a harsh reality in relationships that people don’t want to admit. This applies whether you are swingers, or polyamorous, or in relationship anarchy, or in a traditionally monogamous relationship.

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June 17, 2016 / non-monogamy, Polyamory

The ownership paradigm

Because it is so relevant to what I said yesterday.

http://kimchicuddles.com/image/146061777180

Full credit to kimchicuddles!! I love it!!

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