Archive for February, 2012

February 29, 2012 / Chosen family, Communication

When Polyamory Becomes “Non-normal”

The editors of Looking Through Us are pleased to present the winner from our Valentine's contest.  Sara lives with her husband of 20 years and two children.  She and her husband prefer long term re

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February 28, 2012 / Communication, Intimacy, non-monogamy, Relationship dynamics

Ask PolyAnna: Any Thoughts on How to Decide Whether to Take the Leap into Swinging?

Question: Any thoughts on how to decide whether to take the leap into swinging? Before I had even heard the label polyamory, my husband and I were knee deep into our exploration of non-monogamy. As

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February 27, 2012 / admin

And the winner is…

Sara from Soap Operaesque. We are delighted to feature her story about poly parenting and how poly somehow is the normal until it isn't for kiddos of poly parents. Her post will be up on 2-29-2012.

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February 23, 2012 / Communication, Intimacy, non-monogamy, Relationship dynamics

What is a relationship?

We use the phrase often. We say, “I’m in a relationship with ___.” We say it, but exactly what does that mean? It’s easy to see that I am in a relationship with PolyAnna, we have been toget

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February 19, 2012 / admin, Communication, non-monogamy

e[lust] #33

Welcome to e[lust], the sex blog round-up- The best posts from the hottest and smartest sex bloggers all in one place! This edition highlights topics such as STI's, swingers and poly relationships, sp

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February 16, 2012 / Communication, non-monogamy, Polyamory

Getting needs met

I heard several variations on the following spoken by various poly people at a recent conference: "I am poly, because it's just not reasonable/realistic/sensible to expect one person to meet all of yo

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February 14, 2012 / emotional intimacy, Fidelity, Intimacy, physical intimacy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

PolyAnna’s Musings: What am I so afraid of…

So my mantra, and something that has guided me through my poly journey, is "choose love not fear." My husband and I have done that from the start. Our love is strong, even after 20 years, it has grown

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February 9, 2012 / Communication, non-monogamy, Polyamory, relationship structures

Primary? Alpha?

So... Primary, secondary, even tertiary are terms that are very commonly used in the world of polyamory. Surf the topic almost anywhere, and they will pop up. A quick check of our glossary here will s

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February 7, 2012 / Chosen family, Communication, emotional intimacy, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics, relationship structures

Ask PolyAnna: How can I stay in the loop…

Question: As a "secondary" involved with a married poly man, how do I stay informed/involved in his serious medical condition (which will involve surgery) without stepping on anybody's toes or seeming

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February 1, 2012 / admin

A Valentine’s Contest: Share your story and be entered to win…

Love is in the air, and so is money! Well, Amazon gift card type money, that is. The editors of Looking Through Us are actively seeking your stories. We want to provide our readers and those who st

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