Archive for July, 2016

July 27, 2016 / Intimacy, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

The Relationship Escalator

I honestly thought that I wrote a basic post on this topic years ago, but a diligent search of LT.us has proven that if I ever I wrote it, it wasn’t posted here! Whether you watch movies from Hollyw

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July 19, 2016 / Communication, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

I’m Jealous

Here’s another scenario I’ve run across repeatedly over the years, either as a question in a symposium or in a counseling session. The specifics vary from case to case, but the question is pretty

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July 12, 2016 / Communication, Fidelity, Lisa, physical intimacy

I Didn’t See It. Consent Violations for the Knowledgeable.

In my circle of friends, the issue of consent is discussed a lot. It is hashed and rehashed until we think we have it all down and we know what a consent violation looks like and what our response

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July 12, 2016 / Chosen family, Communication, non-monogamy, Polyamory

Random thoughts

I allowed my mind to wander this morning [dangerous, I know!!] and this is what came out!! I’m not poly because I have a high libido. I do have a very high sex drive, but there are many ways to s

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July 4, 2016 / Fidelity, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

Conditional Consent – aka “the Veto”

Over the years I have helped one friend after another deal with the aftermath of being devastated by the concept of consent, with a series of conditions, that some call “the Veto.” Partner ‘A

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