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September 19, 2016 / admin, Communication, Uncategorized

Short break

Sorry for the extended silence here. Don't worry, I'm not going to disappear again. We took a wonderful vacation, and now we are in the process of moving. I'll be back posting again soon, I promise!

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August 13, 2016 / non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

A millennial view of poly

An interesting view of polyamory by a millennial from the UK NewStatesman. Give it a look!! She almost sounds like her generation invented ethical non-monogamy, but oth

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August 11, 2016 / Communication, non-monogamy, Polyamory

Dating is risky business!!

How do I meet poly people?? Where do you meet your partners? How do I get started? I’ve been seeing variations on these questions recently all over social media. In one respect I find it

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August 4, 2016 / bisexuality, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

Adding a third

I’m going to take a look at another all too frequent scenario. You will probably notice that I am intentionally avoiding buzzwords that can be laden with emotional value that could misdirect the rea

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July 27, 2016 / Intimacy, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

The Relationship Escalator

I honestly thought that I wrote a basic post on this topic years ago, but a diligent search of has proven that if I ever I wrote it, it wasn’t posted here! Whether you watch movies from Hollyw

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July 19, 2016 / Communication, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

I’m Jealous

Here’s another scenario I’ve run across repeatedly over the years, either as a question in a symposium or in a counseling session. The specifics vary from case to case, but the question is pretty

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July 12, 2016 / Chosen family, Communication, non-monogamy, Polyamory

Random thoughts

I allowed my mind to wander this morning [dangerous, I know!!] and this is what came out!! I’m not poly because I have a high libido. I do have a very high sex drive, but there are many ways to s

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July 4, 2016 / Fidelity, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

Conditional Consent – aka “the Veto”

Over the years I have helped one friend after another deal with the aftermath of being devastated by the concept of consent, with a series of conditions, that some call “the Veto.” Partner ‘A

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June 21, 2016 / Fidelity, Relationship dynamics


There is a harsh reality in relationships that people don’t want to admit. This applies whether you are swingers, or polyamorous, or in relationship anarchy, or in a traditionally monogamous relatio

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June 17, 2016 / non-monogamy, Polyamory

The ownership paradigm

Because it is so relevant to what I said yesterday. Full credit to kimchicuddles!! I love it!!

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