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August 13, 2011 / Chosen family, Communication, kendra, non-monogamy, Polyamory

So long, and thanks for all the fish! – Kendra’s story

For the last few months I have been reliving my poly journey here at LookingThrough.us, and now that I am coming to this, the final installment, I realize just how important this has been in my life.

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August 6, 2011 / Communication, kendra, non-monogamy, Polyamory

Poly/Kink – Kendra’s story

I embraced both my kinky side and my poly side at about the same time, so it is difficult to speak of one without referencing the other when I am discussing my first long-term partner—the man who wo

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July 30, 2011 / Chosen family, Communication, kendra, non-monogamy, Polyamory

Gateway – Kendra’s story

When I turned twenty-five I started to come out of my self-imposed sexual exile—not-so-coincidentally around the same time that I got my first computer, and my first access to chat rooms via Compuse

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July 23, 2011 / kendra, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

The others – Kendra’s story

In my late teens and early twenties I was surrounded by kinky, sexually open people—I was just too naïve, despite my jaded history, to understand and take advantage of it. I knew that there were ce

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July 16, 2011 / Communication, kendra, non-monogamy, Polyamory

I heart porn – Kendra’s story

During my period of sexual denial erotica and pornography had a huge effect on me because, let’s face it, when you aren’t having your own sex living vicariously through others is your only option.

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July 9, 2011 / Communication, kendra, non-monogamy, Polyamory

Time-out – Kendra’s story

In my late teens—the time when, not so coincidentally, I became a mother— society won for a bit and I put my inner sexual/poly child in time-out. I basically decided that I was a slut and that I n

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July 2, 2011 / kendra, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

Californication – Kendra’s Story

My major period of sexual exploration lasted until the age of nineteen, but the climax came (please don’t pardon the pun) during my sixteenth year when myself and a couple of other girls thought it

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June 25, 2011 / Communication, kendra, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

I want your sex – Kendra’s story

Like most teenagers I got a large part of my sexual information from entertainment. My early fascination with sitcom relationships led to a complete obsession with pop-culture sex, and growing up in t

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June 18, 2011 / Communication, kendra, non-monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship dynamics

Expectations – Kendra’s story

There seems to be a point, somewhere between childhood and adolescence, when I decided that my early ideas about relationships were wrong, or at least something to outgrow like the Easter Bunny and Po

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